Practical Ways to Support Students in Developing Stronger Self-concepts

by Gloria Hash Marcus

R U Assertive? has a useful chapter on practical ways to support students in developing stronger self-concepts.  As you start a new year, why not use Positive Self-Talk which is in Chapter 7?  We make hundreds of self-statements each day and often we become “numb” to our self-talk.  Start by listening to what you are saying to yourself.  Are you making kind self-statements?  Are you critical of yourself?  Do you hear yourself making negative self-statements?  Are you putting yourself down?  After you notice your internal remarks, start to identify positive traits about yourself and make more of these remarks in your “inside talk.”


3 Responses to Practical Ways to Support Students in Developing Stronger Self-concepts

  1. Cindy says:

    I think it is such a great idea to start off the new year with exercices like this, not just for my kids, but for me, too! I have encouraged my children to practice this “inside talk” in hopes that it will build their self-esteem and help them to attain a fuller understanding of their growing selves. I was wondering, is it possible to extend this activity even further? I was thinking of telling my kids to actually try and realize some of their “inside talk” commentary in the real world. If a child is engaging in positive self-statements, isn’t the next logical step for the child to realize these statements in his or her day-to-day life?

  2. Dear Cindy,
    What a good role model you are for your children in fostering positive “self-talk.” As time permits and as your children are receptive, share with them ways of caring for themselves through expanding thier internal dialogue with positive self-statements. One way to extend this exercise is to incorporate positive visualizations which is also in Chapter 7 of R U Assertive? Have your children read and explore examples that reflect ways they can visualize experiencing sucess and reaching their goals in life.
    Also, acknowledge and reward yourself for being a good parent!
    Gloria Hash Marcus

  3. Cindy says:

    It has been a little over a month since you last wrote, and I just wanted to up-date you a bit with the progress of my kids. After your last message, I did start to encourage my children to start positively visualizing their goals. And I have to say, myself and my children’s instructors all see a difference this semester! My kids seem to be more driven and goal-oriented, but also they seem to be more clear on what it is they want out of school and life. Thank you for giving us the tools and advice of which has positively influenced my children’s lives!

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